Reflecting on what was, to improve on what is to come.
One of the most powerful things you can do is to take responsibility for your actions, choices and current circumstances. The moment you do that, you can repent and progress past who you were to who you are becoming.
This ensures that change and growth take place, the type of reflection that draws you closer to who God intends for you to be.
The choice is yours.
“you’ve changed” has anyone ever said this to you? 🙄
just a little reminder that people who are comfortable remaining stagnant will always say “you’ve changed”...you’re not the same person you were last year, last month, or even last week. life includes growth and transformation. don’t allow those who are stuck in the past make you feel like “changing” is a bad thing 💭
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this has been up heavy for me,this community + my clients this week - as i’ve gotten soo many questions around this
even though we know people don’t know what we want - we don’t often admit how badly we want them to.
whether it’s from unmet needs during our childhood, insecurity, fear, wanting to feel safe, etc - we feel better when people around us anticipate what we need.
what i’ve learned is that it ALSO feels good to share what you need and have people meet you. .
it feels good to clear the air with people who’ve hurt you and have the ability to hear you
this past weekend i had the most INTENSELY BEAUTIFUL ongoing (like until 4:30am ongoing) conversation with friends of mine where we talked about it all and realized how much the issues we all shared with each other and others were based on needs we’d never shared - and i’ve known one of those people almost 20 years.
the thing is, we know the side of people they feel safe showing. and as we evolve, we change, our needs change + what we want changes. randomly blurting that out, projecting, or passive aggressiveness DOES NOT get the message across.
but, giving yourself the space to figure out what you need, grieve, heal then share what you need to share does (with healthy folks)
use the questions frequently when things come up to discern if external conversations are even necessary- and if they are, what’s ACTUALLY a problem for you versus what’s a problem that no one could’ve ever known. it doesn’t mean its your fault (that would be shame) but it does mean it opens up an experience for growth for everyone involved x ...
2020: Focus on the overall system, rather than a single goal. “If you’re having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn’t you. The problem is your system. Bad systems repeat themselves again and again not because you don’t want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” ...